So every year there’s this grand question about what to get her for Mother’s Day. The expectation of what we should be doing on Mother’s Day is overwhelming too. We dream of a perfect day off. A blissful utopia of a clean house and no chores. Where nothing is sticky or shoved into place. Where we wake to the sound of chirping birds who help us get dressed and meet the day.
I think for Mother’s day we just want you to treat us the way we treat you every single day. Here’s a delicate suggestion: Wake up before she gets up and make breakfast…for everyone in the house including her. This part is important: clean up all the breakfast dishes and get everyone dressed. Plan a day of family fun. Take the children somewhere for the entire day. Leave her home, if she wants to stay home, but make sure there are no chores for her to do. Don’t tell her she can do the chores tomorrow! Take the children someplace educational and fun, like a science center, or a museum. Take the children to visit your mother. Feed them. Return home. Bathe the children. Dress them for bed. Perform the bedtime routine. Put yourself to bed.
Too much? Alright, here’s my best advice on a short list.
Do not wake her up.
Do not watch her fold laundry and say: “When you’re done, wanna get something to eat or what?”
Do not say “There’s a card for you somewhere in the bedroom. When I’m finished with my paper I’ll get it”
Do not say “Did we get something for my mother?”
And remember Father’s Day is a month away.